Musings of a Dumb Ass

Musings of a Dumb Ass...... When is love love? Why are first loves never to be forgotten while those relationships we work for and plan on fall by the wayside in disarray, disappointment and disaster. Those we may have spent time and had dreams with are sometimes easily distracted by life itself and give up the security of comfort for the excitement of the unknown. All the while the first love usually has the lofty perch of never facing the test of application and therefore immune to lifes realities. Is love present when one partner takes on the responsibility of someone else's children? Or is that insecurity at work? Can we learn to love in time in the absence of that spark? Does a person who has had many partners either in matrimony or failed attempts toward permanancy have a shot at ever experiencing the real thing? Or, or they likely to just continue on searching even though whatever they're seeking remains elusive. Is it possible a strong first love experience is responsible for an inability to have a life long relationship with another? If what you thought was your first love is put to the test and fails, does that mean your first love wasn't your first love and your real first love is out there waiting and should be searched for? Are first loves always mutual? Or is it more likely that a first love is actually only experienced by one and tolerated by the other? Is it possible that the failure or inability to continue with a first love is a reason for homosexuality? When one leaves another oblivious to the needs of all except themselves and winds up in a relationship that continues till death do us part, does that mean they've found a reasonable facsimile for first love, or they've just taken the easy way and tolerated life all the while just a sunrise from another departure from what is to chase what could be. Life is so full of questions and so empty of certainty. We could all take lessons from the devotion of the lowly goose and have one partner for all of life, whatever that may be. My mother-in law was a wise and probably misunderstood lady. She said it should cost many thousands of dollars to wed and only pennies to divorce, and that the marriage should have a contract that came up for renewal on a timely basis and should be discussed and negotiated by both parties. If agreement couldn't be reached then a simple even up split of property owned at the time and 6 months a year possession by each parent of the children followed by a promise not to fight. What wisdom and simplicity, which is why it won't work for such a complicated species........